How can you take care of your mental Health before it becomes too late for a change?

No body can be certain of how their tomorrow will turn-out to be, and most certainly no one knows how their health will manage to keep up while they continue to work in today’s complex environments, schedules, accompanied with inevitable stress every day. I have a close friend, Rosemary, someone I know to have lived a very affluent and privileged life (but she’s always a nice and kind lady). I was shocked to visit her recently, just to find that she was walking on crutches.  I couldn’t believe it, we just had an outing together a month ago! Well, she sat me down and told me, “it’s bone marrow cancer, we caught it late, I’ve never tested it all my life, never expected it would ever happen to me”, she said.

Neither would I have expected it, but this experience alone sent me right over for medical checkups so I never fall victim of the same. Cancers have devoured so many women today, according to

  • In 2018, an estimated 1,735,350 new cases of cancer will be diagnosed in the United States and 609,640 people will die from the disease.

The numbers are so worrying. Do you know what else shares such huge numbers, and even worse? Mental Illnesses! According to statistics at

  • Approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S.—43.8 million, or 18.5%—experiences mental illness in a given year.
  • More than 90% of children who die by suicide have a mental health condition.
  • Each day an estimated 18-22 veterans die by suicide – due to mental disorders.

When it comes to Mental illness, its easier to speak in percentages because the diseases under this category are so subtle and because they are too common, they never attract the kind of attention appropriate for proper treatment thereby advancing so quickly from hard challenges, to stress, to depression, to long term trauma’s, mental disorientation and related diseases, which will lead to death per se, or suicide, and the numbers are only going up.

In light of today’s daily needs, and challenges each one of us faces at home, at work, with micro and macro-Issues, I’d like to share a bit more on simple things you can do to stay in shape:

  1. Talk about your feelings: Men are always hard on sharing. It’s good to be discrete in matters that deserve discretion but feelings which happen to everyone, feelings that keep your mind under constant agony are very dangerous to harbor and anchor alone. Open up, share with someone, and even if you may not get the exact thing you seek, you’ll find relief and comfort to push forward.
  2. Remain active and busy: When you get knocked down in any endeavor, its more likely for some people to just give up, sit back and vent about what’s happened over and over. A healthy mind is one that can bury past challenges and failure, and build something new worth meditating and working upon. Don’t stay down for ever, the best way to get over a disappointment is to keep moving forward with what really matters to you.
  3. Discipline yourself: Breaking bad is not the solution to falling down. You’ll make matters worse. Challenges come to prove your strength. Discipline yourself at all stages, drinking alcohol for instance does not take away any problems from your minds, it can mask them (as you already know) but by the time you come to it, you are in trouble twice as much before you did. A number of people turn to temporal relief inducing substances such as drugs so as to forget about what exactly is happening to their lives, and eventually end-up worse. Discipline yourself, no one else will be there to.
  4. Seek-out for help: There’s always help available for every type of person and every kind of problem. Give yourself a chance for triumph. No one is above being knocked down, even the most successful people we all know today have had so many overwhelming blows in their lives, but how do they keep remaining successful? They seek help!
  5. Accept the person you are: We’re all different. It’s much healthier to accept that you’re unique than to wish you were more like someone else. Feeling good about yourself boosts your confidence to learn new skills, visit new places and make new friends. Good self-esteem helps you cope when life takes a difficult turn.
  6. Do something nice for others: Living alone on an island of solitude is not how a person was designed to live. We are social beings. Our love for others (which is the greatest security and source of good feeling one can have) comes from within ourselves. You won’t feel good about someone until you do something good for them. Showing kindness, care, sharing in material and other substance is a reciprocal event that results in a special contentment and relief on your end as well. Giving is a two way street. Don’t be self-absorbed, every once in a while, show care. It’ll set your mental well-being to the right path for which man was designed to operate.
  7. Learn patience and giving your mind a break: Constant venting, complaining, normally follows lack of gratitude to everyone which alone can add severe depression to a person’s life. A person who only sees challenges and only notices the worst in people rather than the good everyone can offer always suffers great mental disturbance which is normally reflected in their social life, especially the person’s relationship with family, friends, workers and the like. Mental well being amidst daily duties and confrontations requires patience and a level of calmness every once in a while.

Seeing where the world is heading, we can only hope that human discipline towards maintaining a clear mental well-being will increase over time and much faster than the challenges do otherwise, we are looking at a world that will suffer mental challenges every day, from young to old. I hope for a better scenario.

Please share your thoughts or questions about how best one can keep their mental well being intact below. Thanks!

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Regular User Asked on November 15, 2018 in Mental Health.
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Pauline, I saw Rosemary, I was taken aback when I heard the news too, unexpected! How life can catch you off guard, so sad. And BTW thanks for the tips here, really helpful.

Regular User Answered on November 16, 2018.
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Thanks for sharing this information with us Pauline, very helpful!

Moderator Answered on November 17, 2018.
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